There is much to unpack and think about. Church is complicated sometimes. It good not to generalize too much as many factors determine responses.
Recently our church leadership committed our church to several big projects with overlapping time and financial support needed. These were piled on existing commitments and the response was poor leading to staff frustration at the congregation. Their frustration in turn shamed and/or angered those who were already stretched with time and money commitments. that dynamic squelches the heart to spontaneously respond.
I'm so sorry you're on the receiving end of that kind of poor leadership. It's unfortunate that some pastors/elders can act as if they're entitled to the time and money of their church volunteers. I suspect it can begin when they take on too much of the burden of "service" themselves rather than letting the family share the load. It's not supposed to be this way!
There is much to unpack and think about. Church is complicated sometimes. It good not to generalize too much as many factors determine responses.
Recently our church leadership committed our church to several big projects with overlapping time and financial support needed. These were piled on existing commitments and the response was poor leading to staff frustration at the congregation. Their frustration in turn shamed and/or angered those who were already stretched with time and money commitments. that dynamic squelches the heart to spontaneously respond.
I'm so sorry you're on the receiving end of that kind of poor leadership. It's unfortunate that some pastors/elders can act as if they're entitled to the time and money of their church volunteers. I suspect it can begin when they take on too much of the burden of "service" themselves rather than letting the family share the load. It's not supposed to be this way!